Acceptance is the answer to all my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because
I find some person, place, thing, or situation-some fact of my life-unacceptable to me, and I can find no
serenity until I accept that person, place, thing, or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be
at this moment. Nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God's world by mistake. Until I could accept my
alcoholism, I could not stay sober; unless I accept life completely on life's terms, I cannot be happy. I need
to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world as on what needs to be changed in
me and in my attitudes.
Shakespeare said, "All the world's a stage, all the men and women merely players."
He forgot to mention that I was the chief critic. I was always able to see the flaw in every person, every
situation. And I was always glad to point it out, because I knew you wanted perfection, just as I did. AA
and acceptance have taught me that there is a bit of good in the worst of us and a bit of bad in the best of us;
that we are all children of God and we each have a right to be here. When I complain about me or about you,
I am complaining about God's handiwork. I am saying that I know better than God.
For years, I was sure the worst thing that could happen to a nice guy like me would be that I
would turn out to be an alcoholic. Today, I find it's the best thing that has ever happened to me. This proves
I don't know what's good for me. And if I don't know what's good for me, then I don't know what's good or
bad for you or for anyone. So I'm better off if I don't give advice, don't figure I know what's best, and just
accept life on life's terms, as it is today-especially my own life, as it actually is. Before AA, I judged myself
by my intentions, while the world was judging me by my actions.
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